Understanding the Power of Your Voice
Facing adulthood and increased independence, you’ve got a number of life changes ahead of you. Perhaps the most important skill that you can cultivate before graduating from high school is self-advocacy — confidently and respectfully communicating your needs and boundaries.
Below are some common scenarios in which clear and confident communication will be necessary. Take a look and then consider: what’s one area where you feel ready to speak up for yourself?
| Your Need | Your Move | Your Words | Your Challenge |
| Academic Accommodations | Figure out exactly what helps you learn best. Approach your teacher when there is plenty of time and privacy. | “I’ve found that [your specific challenge] makes it hard for me to show what I know. Would it be possible to [solution]?” | Be willing to partner with your teacher on how to make the accommodation feasible. |
| Assignment Extensions | The sooner you ask, the better. Consider making an appointment with your teacher. | “I’m reaching out because [explain the situation] and I’m worried I won’t be able to turn in [the assignment] on time. Would an extension until [specific date] be possible?” | Be honest and state which part(s) you’ve completed as a show of good faith. There may still be late penalties. |
| More or Different Work Hours | Let your boss know that you want to talk about your hours — in person. | “I’m really enjoying my work here and I’m interested in picking up more hours if any become available. Please keep me in mind.” Or, if you need a change: “My schedule has shifted a bit and I’m hoping to adjust my work hours to [desired hours].” | Be open to compromise: Your employer might not be able to accommodate your request fully or immediately. |
| Dating Boundaries | Don’t wait for issues to pop up. Discuss boundaries as your relationship grows. | “I’m not comfortable with [specific physical touch] right now. I need you to respect that.” Or, “I really enjoy spending time with you, but I also need time for [school/family/interests]. Let’s make sure we find a balance.” | Be alert for red flags, like a partner who dismisses your request or turns it into a blame game. Your safety and well-being are non-negotiable. |
