How to Handle a Breakup
Although the college years bring lots of adventures and new beginnings, they can also be filled with endings.
Whether it’s with a friend, a family member, a roommate, or a significant other, make no mistake about it, breakups can be devastating.
Let’s take a look at how you can weather the storm.
1. Remember that any kind of a breakup is a loss. You’re going to grieve the end of the relationship, even if it was your decision. Grief takes different forms, but the constants are pain and time. It will hurt, and it will hurt for a while. Give yourself the gift of acknowledging the pain as real and valid, and allow yourself time to process before you expect recovery.
2. It’s helpful to put space between you and your ex. If all you want to do is reconnect with them, this can be very difficult. But all it does is extend the grieving period by creating the illusion that they are still in your life. You can be friends … later. For now, put away the mementos; resist cyber-stalking them; and (temporarily) avoid the places and activities you enjoyed together.
3. Focus on yourself. Record your successes, talents, and things you’re grateful for. Spend more time with friends. Rediscover what makes you happy and fulfilled (things that aren’t tied to another person, OBV). Concentrate on being who you want to be as an individual.
The stronger you are in yourself, the more likely it is that you’ll meet someone who celebrates and complements you.